09 The Ego
10 I’m Not Good Enough
11 Shattering Inner Sabotage
13 Soulful Surrender
14 Change and More is Coming
15 On Light
16 Roller Coaster
17 Tracking Our Thoughts
19 Ever-Present Truth
20 Authentic Transparency
22 List of Gripes
25 Meditation on a Blank Canvas
26 Being Human
27 Infinite Ocean
28 Tools and Technologies
30 Accelerate Your Ability
31 Be the Change
32 Being an Instrument
34 Beyond 33 Days
35 Thank You
What if the ego is your friend? Your ally? What if it allows you to paint with the vibrant hues of Rothko, to make your guitar sing like Eric Clapton’s, to navigate this vibrational plane of existence with brilliance?
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It is amazing to pull back and watch your motions and reactions and then let them dissolve. I don’t feel like I am storing that energy in my body anymore. I can feel it leave. Awesome!
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I am confused here. Please Panache explain why the ego is our friend? Wouldn’t we be all very awfull people if we let our ego rule?
Hi Janet, I heard the message of Panache right now, and he is not talking about letting your ego rule in your life, but embrace your ego as a friend. Panache is right, without our ego, we wouldn’t be the unique expressions we are, but as you mention, when our ego start ruling our lives, without the support of our heart, you are right that humans can turn into monsters, but when we are able to embrace the ego with our hearts as soon as we are aware when it shows up, like Panache invites us to do, your ego will become a friend. By doing this we will be able to find a new balance between our heart and our ego. I agree with Panache that we don’t have to fight or we don’t have to judge or exclude our ego, we just have to embrace it with our heart when it shows up. When the ego tries to rule our lives, we are just aware of it and embrace it instead of judging, fighting or excluding it. For me I found out that the heart is not supposed to serve the ego and let the ego rule over it, the ego has to serve the heart as an equal partner, because we need both qualities as well from our heart as from our ego in order to evolve in our process. But I agree with you Janet, if we let our ego rule over our heart, than we all have experienced what can become of it, we can turn into very ‘awfull’ people. But it is actually, thanks to this experience that we can make this ‘change’ now and let the heart rule our lives again with our ego as an equal partner. Only the heart is able to embrace everything as equal partners, the ego will never do that, the ego only wants to be the best in everything, that’s why the ego has to serve the heart and not the other way round. But we need the qualities of our ego for our own unique expression and we need the heart embracing all those unique expressions as equal partners in order to create the love, peace and harmony we all want to experience. At least that’s my point of view as far as I understand it and as far as I embrace it myself. Love and hugs. ♥♥♥♥
After all these years trying to beat the ego into submission. The energy I have used trying to destroy the ego because I was told that the ego was bad. And all the times I felt bad because I couldn’t control my ego, when in fact, I should have embraced it. This knowledge is the real truth and the only way forward on our inevitable journey to Human Evolution.
I Hear You, EMILY, Darling, I am guilty of that too and all that resistance and frustration just did not feel right to me and now I can see how that just could be one of my main blocks that has been holding me back,,,
Embracing our ego just feels more true to me too, Love
I love what you said Hilde and its so true, Love to You 🙂
Very lovely explanation Hilde! 🙂
Excellent interpretation. I recently listened to a presentaion on finding our True Purpose in life and he said the same thing. It Iis our ego that has us sign up for this course. It is our heart that reasonates with his message. So we need our
ego but as you put it as a partner to let our hearts shine so our authentic selves can surface.
Beautifully said, Roe. Thank you!
Well said Hilde Love and hugs to all <3
Thank you Hilde, for this post! It really helped expand on what Panache said in the video. Very helpful! Will re-read and gain even more insight. Thank you for taking the time and effort to share your thoughts.
Brilliantly clear, Hilde. Thank you for that.
WELL said (((HILDI))) , awesome,,,I understand, too, Janet, where you are coming from, I have been fighting against my ego for many years now, trying to silence that little monkey but that has NOT worked well so far!!! This new idea just feels more True to me, shining a new Light on our ego as a friend and I Am excited to see how, changing the way I look at that, changes my life, my perspective,,,I knew in my heart that being frustrated with my ego, did not feel right somehow, so I am excited to see how this all unfolds with this new point of view.
I actually did not know how different this would be than yesterday’s addictions, However, after listening to Panache, this morning, I am thinking about how interesting this new way of observing, accepting, will change things, to now Embrace my ego without so much resistance,,,This aught to be fun,,,Much Love
Me, too, Theresa.
Dear Hilde……..you have put into words exactly as I feel it and see it……..the strength of an enlightened Heart is always the best guide……..THANK YOU, Hilde and all 33-Day catalysts……..my heart is so grateful. Panache, you amaze me……..you rise like the sun every morning in your radiance for all of us…….no matter what, your sun continues to shine…….showing us the way thru the maze. The journey of becoming aware and conscious of EVERY single moment of every single day is a daunting and never ending task………your beautiful and loving example carries me forward. Deepest gratitude.
Beautifully stated Hilde!!!
Thank you HILDE! Even though I am still clueless how to allow all this to happen inside of me. What you just said makes a lot of sense. The problem between theory and practice is that there is this HUGE chasm between the new idea and my interpretation on how that is supposed to happen in my reality. I do not know how to apply all this ACCEPTANCE and ALLOWANCE. Ummm … OK – First off, if I am lucky enough to be AWARE of the subtle/sneaky emotional state I am in (ego/pride/fear) I am usually reacting so hard that I am riding it out and not able to think to breath…. just aware enough to decide if I need to FIGHT or FLIGHT. I am learning to try to love myself better… without gagging on the thought and I have made a lot of progress in this department over the last year. I am still very uncomfortable with even saying that I love myself. But before, the whole notion of “unconditional love” was like pouring acid on me (20 yrs ago) and about 1 yr ago unconditional love would send me out of the room, or I would make fun of it and roll my eyes. Now I can sit with it better but still can’t accept it fully yet. I guess I have a ways to go before I can use my heart to embrace the parts of me that I do not get along with or just do not accept. I accept that these parts of me are a pain in the ass and that I am stuck with them… but that has not been working out for me very well. 🙂
Here is what I have discovered; maybe it will help to answer your question. The ego is that part of us that is uniquely living our soul’s experience. Without it we would, as Panache has said elsewhere, be drooling zombies not knowing how to navigate our lives day by day. Our ego is vital to our earthly existence. I think too many so-called New Age ideas have denigrated the ego and some have even claimed it must be destroyed for us to become spiritual. I just cannot agree. What is the point of being here on earth, in human form, if we cannot experience our lives as individual pieces of the whole. If we wanted to be spiritual all the time, there would be little point to incarnating! I believe the ego (in conjunction with the id and super-ego) is that which (hopefully) matures throughout life, feeling everything in the human experience, distinguished from every other person … thinking, calculating, changing, questioning, growing, making mistakes, learning, loving… The ego is necessary!
Dear CoSmic S – You shine your light so beautifully . Thank you for your input today and everyday. Your response to Janet has helped me immensely. God Bless You
Love what You said too Cosmic Sunshine 🙂
Thank you, Cosmic Sunshine!
Oren an ego is just the roar of the lion to get us in the door.
Often not Oren
Exactly, Cosmic Sunshine!
well said Cosmic Sunshine!
YOUR ego allows YOU to express Divinity uniquely! It simply needs to BE embraced ❤️
Love it! 🙂
You write so selflessly, which is a tremendous help in keeping the focus where it needs to be for everyone. I aspire to master that space where selflessness and flow meet, as my heart longs to share everything I have with others. Maybe meditation will help me find it?
ALISHA, Darling, meditation is a great way to silence our thoughts that tend to run our life, and connect with our higher selves and I can see how, by Embracing our ego, and letting go of all that resistance would help as well,,,
I Love seeing the pedals of the rose open up to even more beauty, that is how I see each one of us here and it is so magnificent,,,Love and Hugs
Do some people have stronger egos than others? Do we get into trouble when we defend our egos? I’m reminded of what Byron Katie says, “Defensiveness is the first act of war.”
Wow Panache, we give whole explanations, and you give us just one sentence and it’s going deep down in me. ‘My ego allows me to express Divinity uniquely!’ It simply needs to be embraced. Divine expression is actually the whole range of expressions, not only the expression of our so called ‘beauty’ ones. Divine expression includes everything, so everything needs to be embraced. Our ‘dark’ and ‘shadow’ side is the equal partner of our ‘Light’ and ‘Shiney’ side. It is all just what it is, an expression of the Divine, even judgment, fight, denial,…. I always made the mistake to prefer my own ‘Light’ side above my own ‘Shadow’ side. In this life I had to learn to accept everything as equal partners. In those 23 years I evolved a lot in this lesson, but I have to accept this truth at all levels and 99% is not enough it has to be the full 100%. Something deep inside of me has to accept this truth for the full 100%, so I can truly see myself as being an expression of the Divine in all its aspects. When I can truly see myself that way, I can truly see other people that way too. Wooow, thank you very much Panache, I can feel something is shifting inside of me now. This whole day I had the feeling that something was going on, but I didn’t know what, I just embraced everything that occurred, my ‘head-talking’, my ‘not knowing’, my ‘strange feeling’, my ‘preference of turning inward all the time’, my ‘body aching’,…. They are in fact all expressions of my own Divinity. I truly AM an expression of the Divine, I have always been an expression of the Divine, as a matter of fact no one can’t be less than an expression of the Divine, only when you have forgotten this truth and you ‘THINK’ you are something else. The actor who has lost himself completely in his own role and has forgotten who he truly is, A UNIQUE EXPRESSION OF THE DIVINE IN ALL OF ITS ASPECTS. ♥♥♥♥
Wow – Hilde – that was even better than your first explanation! This one really helped me more. When you listed the things: “head-talking”, my “Not Knowing”, my “Strange feeling” , my “preference of turning inward all the time” and especially….”my body aching”… helped me figure out how to start embracing myself with love in my heart. I just need examples spelled out for me – so my brain can make the connection and bridge that huge CHASM between a wonderful theory and my mundane practice. Thanks again. 🙂
Our ego is also capable of loving another with everything we have in us. So as I see it, it is not bad or good. And it can be a tool……..like your hand is a tool. But first, we must really get to know it. If we resist it or make it bad, there is no hope of knowing it. Just judging and condemning. If we open our hearts, become aware of how we are moving with our ego, then we can make a choice as to how to use it, instead of it using us. Awareness is all that is necessary. Desire to love every part of yourself. For you are God and you are precious, just as you are. <3 I Love you Panache. I am so grateful for your wisdoms, sharing and to be on the planet with you. Much Harmony Sweet Soul. Shira
Yes, Shira! I love the part of your post about first getting to know our ego. I see how my judgment and condemnation of my ego as “bad” and “not spiritual” has stopped me from getting to know, embrace and love my ego. God/dess, I LOVE this course! Thank you, Panache! YOU ROCK!
Janet, your confusion helped me to clarified my understanding of the ego. I took the time to think about how I see it.
To embraces the ego and see it as a friend is to do the same as with our hanger, pain, addiction habit. It’s that part of us talking to us, saying something is out of balance. I notice that when I grab a cigarette it’s my ego part of me that want to feel safe and comfort itself and it becomes a habit gesture when I’m unconscious of it. But by being aware of it at the moment I’m doing it, it looses it’s grip on me. I gain more power as to choose what I want to do in this moment. I become conscious, aware of myself. We act awful when we are unaware of it. It’s the process of being aware that is the key of turning our life around and be more and more in the state of joy and love.
It’s OK Janet you are safe in loving and accepting your ego as much as your anger or fear and all your emotions. All is a part of us. We are AWSOME and GENIOUS walking around not awake yet but it’s coming, we are waking up. Thank you for your comment it was the perfect one for today for me. Love to you.
YOU ARE (((AWESOME)))
I think the definition of the ‘ego’ might be the thing here. For me when I feel I want something I check inside if that is what I really want, often ther is something else what my little girl inside wants and I try to listen to that. I have a problem with following the ego when I feel it is wanting something without conciously checking what is behind it. So if I want chocolate or have my say in something I usually need some comfort and healing for a wound inside or have refused to listen to my self/heart. So I use the ego to point out what needs attention. This way it is a good thing but I would not want to just follow its wants. And the part that I read about in the comments, the part that defines us, our passions, that part I call the Self.
So Panaches text was a bit to abstract for me this time.
Janet, I love your question. I understand the point about an ego out of control, either too much or too little. What sticks with me from Panache’s words are the following. (1) Being AWARE when in my egoic state, and (2) the more we are conscious of our unconscious, the more conscious we become. This has been my experience from the great teachings in yoga, and equally important ,y experience. When I am aware of the ego that allows me to create, I go for it. When I am aware f the ego operating with too much doubt, I contract vs expand in creating. This is my experience, and always with pausing in a awareness. Hope this supports your question, and complements it through maintaining a balance in the ego. Surya2
AWARENESS IS huge for me, too. IT’S WHAT I BREATHE INTO. Especially when it’s painful or new…. I celebrate when i realized the Ego is not used to THE NEW ME. Awakened to the DIVINE.
I’m loving this conversation about the ego. I agree that the spiritual movement has not embraced the ego, and has seen it as the trouble maker that needs to be controlled. But by embracing our ego, we are embracing that part of us that is confident, courageous, wild, extravagant and unique.
me too Jacinta i am also enjoying these insites 🙂
I know, RIGHT, JACINTA,,,just the thought of letting go of all that resistance feels so comforting
yes !! sure is !!!
Please help me Panache. I’m just not getting/understanding the wording in what you mean by ‘being aware of a place of better than or less than when I am in my ego’ so I’m not quite sure what I’m looking for today. Also, in reference to precedent days, is it necessary to precisely identify mentally the core reasons for my aches, like yesterday’s, etc. or are the energetic shifts I’ve been experiencing (& there have been some megas! as well as some that felt like ones yuck ones…) the same thing & enough?
Thank you so much for being in my life & having helped me already in so many different ways to be who I am today. I love you, Jan, your team & all of you on this blessed & sacred journey.
When YOU step into a place of comparison or judgment YOUR ego is present in YOUR experience and simply needs to BE observed ❤️
Thank you Panache for your beautifully simple answer. I get it!!!! Wooooh!
! ! BRILLIANT ! ! ! !
you just succeeded in TAKING AWAY ANOTHER CURTAIN from ALL MY EYES!
This “topic” – …. MY EGO…. Running me throughout my ” conscious” time of life for Decades- viewing with a variety of “Tools” – of points of view- struggling with……always been “foggy”….
AND listening to the audio book this morning- parallel reading the passage in the BOOK – I for a moment got an…….. internal HICK-UP- ………then watching the video – clip- it turned to an INSIGHT- the courtain lifted- a tiny sun-light took place( smiling) -YAY
WONDERING how this is unfolding during my to come- busy – day.
I started to communicate with my EGO -as I usually do with my Higher Self…….- so this is to become a NICE INNER CHAT…..- no fight-…listening – be aware of ……and let unfold…
Panache- again- no words to express my GRATITUDE – for YOU BEing in my life ❤️
Thanks Yvonne ❤️
Aloha, Thanks YvonneJ. I am loving your sharing of having a Nice Inner Chat with the Ego. It makes me feel excited,and a wonderful way to embrace the Ego and let it know it is appreciated and my friend, a dear part of my Divine self. Loving it Thanks.
In new age circles the ego has become something to eliminate but I believe like Panache says the ego can be your friend. Its the servant not the master. If we befriend our ego allow it to do its job then we can work in harmony Soul and ego perfect partners. It is about wholeness bringing every aspect of ourselves into who we are as expression. Have a beautiful day blessings of Love/Light
Roz, I remember reading somewhere that the mind (and surely the ego) makes a good servant and a lousy master. Paraphrased this.
I am embracing my vulnerability, I am embracing my insecurity. Just for today, I don’t have to know everything. I don’t have to be better or worse than anyone else. I am, today, what I am
Thank you so much for your clarity, Hilary. You’ve just help me simplify my day!
Beautifully said, Hilary. I think I’ll print your comment and read it EVERY day!!!
Loving that (((HILARY)))
Thank you, Hilary.
On doing the morning exercise exploring the ego it showed up within me as “Darth Vader” (Star Wars). Black, dominant, sinister with it’s noisy breath infiltrating every corner within me. Making me feel small and wanting to crouch. I always thought, ego shows up as this loud bragging behavior. Wanting, knowing, having everything. I guess ego can show up in many and very subtle forms and masks. Being “the greatest sufferer in the world” can also be an ego driven behavior. I think “ego” is one of the most misused and misunderstood concepts. On my journey I came across healers, teachers, trainers etc. who would claim they are only love and light. With no ego. Who would use “ego” like a cussword towards you. And I easily bought into it, not knowing it any better and coming from a place that every feeling of magnificence, every passionate wish, every “I want” is ego-driven. And therefore bad. I do understand now that we all have egos. It is neither good nor bad. The difference lies in the AWARENESS from what inner place I am coming from. My intention. The dimension behind words. As words are just containers. And the same word could be filled with a different vibration and therefore making a difference. Before I found Panache, I had a very devastating experience with a healer who claimed he would heal with Christ Conciousness. I can be grateful for this experience now, because through this experience I can FEEL now the difference in Panache’s teachings. That although Panache is using the same words, saying the same things as this other guy – I can FEEL that he is coming from this place of Divine Love. Not any personal love or hidden agenda. Not from his ego. Being aware who is the captain of his ship as he describes so vividly. And I am learning that the ego separates us from our Divine essence, our true nature, our brilliance and luminosity – so that we can become aware of our brilliance and shine. So I will sit with my Darth Vader today and watch, how he shows up. Thank you Panache for this clarity!
What makes Panache so different?
His words resonate from a sacred place unlike some spiritualists that parrot and merely tell you what you want to hear.
Sabine, my experience is that my ego can APPEAR to separate me from the Divine but NOTHING can do that in reality. I’m seeing more and more how my thoughts, beliefs, theories, and my statements and declarations about the “way it is” are only “smoke and mirrors” when I accept and BE who I really am. Wow! I’m BREATHING that in.
And everything I listed is FUELED by emotion — conscious or unconscious or not. I spent, oh say, the first first 59 years of my life running like hell from seeing or feeling my emotions. I lived in my head — forget my emotions (heart) and body. Doing that had predictable results. Until I got a MAJOR “2 x 4 up the side of the head” warning from Spirit. To this day, I still experience wanting to “bolt and run” from my feelings. And I feel them anyway. And thank God/dess for that!
Thank you Sabine for sharing a your important experience! Ego is loaded with misintepretations and miss-use. Obeserving mine and starting to become friend – feels great! Pananches authentic and vibrational help is amazing!
Thank you for sharing your experiences with us, Sabine. Much love to you and Darth Vader
My ego it is my most fear friend. I have daily battle with my heart. But my heart it is to weak n my ego dominate. I just discover u. I NEED UR TOOL. IM DESPERATE i m exosted. Lov peace
Beloved LIZANNE,,,Just Allow yourself to, Let Go of all that stuff, RELAX,,,,BREATHE, nice long calming deep breaths, relaxing all your muscles, allowing your nerves to calm down, just relax every part of YOU,,,until you feel the love and peace filling your body and relaxing your mind, and just observe your thoughts as they come up, unconditonally,,,and see what happens as the day unfolds,,,we are with you, LIZANNE, right here beside you,,,,,sending LOVE AND HUGS
Agree with Teresa! and be kind to yourself, embrace your ego friendly to bet out of this battle situation, it is only an illusion. Meditate, walk, fresh air, and try to relax, your ego is your best friend! So good news, isn´t it?
Going to the place of better-ness of my ego saved me throughout my childhood. As I was taunted and called names throughout middle- and high-school, my EGO picked me up and kept me lifted up. As people tried to batter me down, I shined my light inside, because I was the only one there for me. I first tried to get the name calling to stop, but that only brought louder and more names. I learned early so-called fellow students felt the need to make me feel less than and dumb and numb…but my ego stayed inside and sure it might have been BIG and BOLD, but it saved me in those days.
Wendy, this is… so… totally… awesome!! I am happy for you for your early, and wise, awareness of self. I had no awareness of the concept of people making themselves feel superior by denegrating someone else until a marriage counselor pointed it out to me during marriage #3. That is how severely my ego had been obscured and my self-esteem negatively nurtured into nothingness. Hurray for your younger self!!!! ~ lovin’ this Ego Day and I haven’t even read Morning or watched Panache’s video
The more conscious we become of when we are unconscious, the more conscious we are….that is brilliant ! Thank you for this insight that is so simple and makes total sense. Thank you. 🙂
For quite sometime I’ve held my ego as a “necessary evil” an aspect of me that needed to be kept in check, if not beaten down. I also have seen when my ego was at work telling me “everybody else is getting theirs, you get yours, too.” My ego, in those instances, knew I was more worthy than I ever did, especially when bound by shame. I have a greater sense of gratitude for my ego today…I would have been a “doormat’ otherwise and I would also not be a unique expression of the Divine that I am. Making my dog my friend feels “right”! Thank you Old Friend.
OMG! Making my dog my friend feels “right”! Well, making my dog my friend does feel “right” and my ego. too!
Wonderful breakthrough for me! I know the ego has created a myriad of challenges in my life over the years, as it does with most people. It has also created a great deal of blessings. Today’s topic resonated with me, in that, I knew that the ego is an intricate part of my whole being, however, I began to perceive it as a burden that needed to be purged. Before reading today’s message, I believe that the Divine, the light within, kept hinting at the fact that their was beauty and depth in the ego. The thought of being without it caused a deep disturbance inside, left me feeling blank. The way Panache discussed the ego in this mornings passage was nothing short of a Divine message to us all. The ego is so relevant to our unique expression and navigation in this physical plane, but represents only part of who we are, as a whole. Allowing it to lead in my life, caused a split from my Divine connection within, by ignoring my inner navigation system. I believe that this is the cause of the many mental breakdowns we all experience. When I say mental break down, I mean when emotions run renegade, blinding us of Divine reason, separating us from love. That said, I’d rather get to know the part of my being that is the ego, embrace it, and work with it (new goal)! Thank you Panache!
YES ALISHA, I hear you,,,Embracing our ego feels much more comforting to me too, Love
Thanks for helping me to understand my ego! Embracing You!
yes,I accept and fully understand that we have to embrace our ego and let it become our good friend.
My intuition have given to me many times this impulse,but I was not so sure about.
So great to hear now from you,der Panache,that my intuition wonted to show me this way since long.
I am so happy and grateful to express my Gratitute to you,beloved Panache.
With love to all of you so wonderful soul family too and thank you for all support and love you have presented to me.
Love and support dear Waltraud!
Brilliant discussion for today friends!!!!! I’m going to step out on a limb and suggest that everyone who has taken the time to join in on any of the discussions have all embraced their ego or they wouldn’t have taken the time to read and comment. To take that another step up, for those reading a lot of the posts and adding support to others wow……I found myself compelled to comment on some of the posts, but have held back from doing tooo many for I thought I would come across as a person with all the answers……..we’ve just been given a chance to give ourselves a gold star to award to our egos! Hope your egos are proud of themselves….hugs
Comment, comment, comment. All of us are seekers, none with answers, many with suggestions to which all of learn from.
I find the shared fear, anger, addictions, patterns, egos as
common as they are unique, like snowflakes.
If any of us knew all the answers, none of us would be here looking for them.
I agree TAZ, snowflakes, beautiful snowflakes
Dear ELIZABETH,,,we are all walking this path together, no right or wrong, good or bad,,,sharing our vulnerabllities, our stories, not an easy process for any and maybe the first for some,,,I am just so grateful for it ALL,,,It is so helpful knowing we are not alone,,,,, sharing, caring, growing, seeking, embracing, loving unconditionally,,,we are all here opening up together and every word we share matters,,,each one brings such value to this process and much love and appreciation to you all
Hugs and thanks!
Don’t hold back, Elizabeth! Express WHATEVER you want and need to.
(((YES))) too many of us have lost our voice growing up,,,,,,this is such a wonderful opportunity to rise up above all that, and be heard, appreciated and Loved
If who I am at my core is love, then I fully embrace and accept it. There is no part of me that is wrong because I am divinely made for I am whole and complete. I allow all judgment to be released and fall away. I am that I am and that is enough.
Genial! To see and make my ego my friend! Many years ago I tried to get rid of my ego as a “negative” aspect of me! Problems… There are no negative Energy! For a long time in life I searched approval and mainly dimished myself or tried to impose. Always felt and intuively noted that there was something positiv with ego, to be able to Be, Act and Go Out in a Natural Way! My friend, my ego, I embrace every part of You and listen to You to Be able to Be and Act in Peace!
Is this the same Ivar from day one? (((((Smile))))) Your heart is shining!
the same… Thanks! Great to read your comments Taz!
Process on, I feel like I have been more to the non-egoistic way of living. Embracing ego to find my power and light!
Thank you Panache! This has been an incredibly journey so far. As I read this morning’s passage I had an incredible breakthrough! It felt like something I have known for a long time, settled deep within me. Embracing my ego, I found her to be a hard, protective shell that has kept me, or rather has tried to keep me from getting hurt. I felt so much compassion for myself, it softened the shell. I willingly embraced her with gratitude and love and allowed her to become a welcomed part of me instead of just a thing I have always been dismissive of. My cells felt it too! As I read the noon passage also, I discovered what my particular re-route is. If I am so SPIRITUAL then why can I not stay in that vibration all the time? Sheesh,I’ve been doing this since 1987! There must be something wrong with me! All these insights. I have been so willing for so long. Thank you Panache, for this fabulous gift of Grace. I love you so much, there really are no words to express my feelings. I am very grateful that you have such a wonderful support team also. Go Team Desai ! ♥ ♡ ♥ ♡ ♥ ♡ ♥
Be kind to yourself, this have been quite a journey for many of us for many years. We are embracing not only this life but also many earlier, we are breaking new grounds, ending family lines issues, standing in our light in the midst of a most fearful world… Love, tenderness and light! Go Chris, you are Great!
When you say ‘ Your ego is your friend and ally in your evolution , it allows you to express yourself uniquely . And allow it to carry you on in your most authentic expression ‘ . For me to understand your words better, could I say ‘ My ego is my car and my authentic expression is me inside it and driving it ? Sometimes I can miss use the power of the car, and think I need to drive fast or bypass someone because all of a sudden I feel threatened for no visible reason , – me comparing myself with some one else on the road – instead of just using my car to take me safely from point A to point B ? Thank you so much for your insight, Love ❤
I like this analogy. Some of us are Porches and Ferraris, some Hummers and Hyundais, others Land Rivers or Beetles.
All are empowered by engines with purpose to transport.
Yes, great analogy of the ego!
The ego is our friend? This is new. The ego tries to eat me alive like a dragon who wants only my pain, my suffering, to win. I need to breathe and sit with this a bit more. I love you Panache Desai. I am doing it – going through all this. I even printed the worksheets at a copy shop last night and ended up helping a woman from Palestine. I could see the pain in her eyes. She has not been back to gaza since 2006 and is in these foreign lands without family. Ah, life on the earth plane. Intense!
Love and support!
Protect me you say? If that is the case I think my ego is on vacation. I have never felt so vulnerable in all my years. For those of you who cannot cry or feel I will lend you some of mine since it is my constant companion. I understand when it takes me over but lately it seems to have vanished.
Vulnerablity is a vibration we all are feeling. Hugs to you. Hugs to all of us in our healing journey.
Today I am mush. Too many thoughts, too many tears, too many emotions.
Gratitude gives my ego car power today.
Much love to you, Taz, and to ALL of us!
That’s been my experience today, as well.
(((time for a group hug)))
I named my ego (Delilah) some time back. When I gave her a voice and a name it sometimes became easier. It is part of who we are. Helps us to get up in the morning, and get thru the day. However it can also start the monkey mind chatter…thinking it protects us. The other day doing self-judgement…she was hysterical. I finally had to call her out in front of me…and ask…are you done yet??? Can you see that this is a waste of time on your part… I have learned to respect my ego and some days actually enjoy the games that go on. I know everyone else has monkey chatter…they just don’t always want to admit it. It is easier for me to see it, own it and have her be my ally(most days). Panache…thank you.
RANDI, I love your idea of naming your ego. I think I will borrow that. Make my ego my ally.
I love observing how I’m letting go, in my heart, growing, not defensive or reactive…. things are going along,,,, as another being is doing things that would have once triggered me….. somewhere along the way my Ego has gone behind my back and secretly, started “acting up”. I’m in my subconscious. Somehow, gone from LOVE & AUTHENTIC SELF/ HEART/ DIVINE, to going through the motions, of acting out, “I’ll get you back for being late”….. not until i talked out the experience, was it pointed out as a possibiltity this had happened… I don’t see myself behaving on co-pilot…. yet I can sees your’s perfectly. Which means they can see mine. My “program”, & Ego , acting out…..
Ah so. I’ve always thought of the ego as the enemy, the devil,keeping me stuck in negativity, trying to tempt me away from all that is. Instead, it’s been nudging me closer to who I AM! But we have to love every aspect of ourselves and only LOVE can keep the ego in check. I’ve always thought that one had to develop an ego before they could “let it go”. Now I see that I have to let it be but coming from the heart rather than the mind. Peace be with you all today! Breathe and enjoy the grace of another day of awakening!! XOXO
I am just in aw, what a beautiful exercise, it is really simple yet just brilliant, after the embrace, I felt a lot of joy & we even did a happy dance together wow, thank you ego, I love you.
Good Morning friends.
How would you perceive this quote regarding
“Relationships always work best when you always do what is best for you.”
My asking is I read this post regarding relationships and just can’t wrap my mind around what is the true message being said is.
Is it ego driven or heart driven?
Isn’t this our choice depending on how concious we are and how much awareness we have gained? If we are all one and all there is is love and we have embodied this love, being aware of our core essence being love – which includes embracing and loving the ego -… then doing what is best for you comes from this place. From your highest vibrational setpoint. So you would love yourself and radiate this love outwards which affects the people in your life. The ripple effect as Panache often refers to. Does this make sense?
TAZ, I think I see the sense in that quote. When I put myself out to do something for someone else that I have resistance to doing, then I carry some sense of being entitled to some favor back from them. Or resentment if I don’t feel equally entitled. When what I do is fully voluntary, there is no unfilled agenda. So by being “selfish” I am actually freed to be wholly in the relationship.
unconditional, doing for others without expecting anything in return
True,Yours and Sabine’s comment remind me of a passage in Neale D Walche’s 1st conversations book where he wrote something that in a relationship, do what is of the highest love to yourself, since we are all connected, what is of the highest love and good to the self must be of the highest love and good to everybody else. But also, only when we are doing what is the highest love and good for the self can we truly help and guide and love others, and be fully present to them
Taz ~ I believe it is like the saying, ‘we need to put our own oxygen mask on first’ and in doing so insure we may be well enough to be there for and assist the others we love~ big hugs & love
Thank you Panache I am so grateful for all your wisdom.
This helped me notice that I have been fighting my ego for a long time now. My ego has been a thorn in my side. The cause of many tears and arguments. As soon as I am feeling insecure about myself, my body, my worth, my ego puffs up and looks for comparisons to other women. It is not something I enjoy but it is something apparently I started doing while young. And I only compare myself to other women in the sense of how my partner may look at them. Are they sexier? Smarter? More interesting? And it has nothing to do with him-he is a devoted and patient partner. I have been this way my whole life. Always needing to feel like I “win.” As I get older I know this is going to affect my ego more and more as a woman. Should I embrace this part of myself? I don’t like that I feel this way, in fact it is a major problem in my life. I want to be comfortable with myself and others. I love other people and I don’t want to feel competitive towards them! Do I embrace this part of my ego that makes me want to compare and compete, all in my mind? Thank you for the opportunity to find peace.
Yes KMARIE, do embrace this beautiful part of you. More you notice and appreciate it, breathing with awareness, more loving you’ll be toward yourself and those around you. That is what I’m experiencing and the people in my life have a more loving reaction toward me. You’ll see. I’m sending Love and hugs your way 🙂
My thought…the ego is just the lion’s roar to get you in the door. Once you are able to trust you let your worries and warts show and live from your heart, your core.
It seems to me that just as the word addiction has an ally friend, distraction, the word ego has an ally friend uniqueness of our heart, is how I am understanding Panache. Through all of our days so far in this 33 day journey, we have been asked to acknowledge our feelings and embrace them. I was talking with my out of state 27 year old son on Sunday, and he said to me “Mom, you sound different!?” For me, that was a compliment 🙂 for I knew it meant I was relaxed and peaceful inside. Perhaps this can be related to our ego, left unchecked, left without acknowledging it, and instead embrace it as our uniqueness of our heart, can be then become with peace with it…
Carole, I can relate with what you are saying. Yesterday, my daughters didn’t say it but I could feel them relaxing seeing me so relaxed. Theirs faces were radiating as they left compared as looking worry and nervous when they arrived.
I’m now waiting for my son to comeback into my life and see how will be his reaction to me. Two years ago we had a big argument for the first time since I adopted him. For the first time he made me cry in front of him. We hugged and said I love you when he left but he never called or answer my called or came for a visit since then. But my I know in my heart he will. Thank you for giving me the space to express that. 🙂
Please take heart Danielle, I know your adopted son will contact you. My son grew up most of his life in a divorced family. His father game me and him conditional love. After high school, my son seemed to be at odds with me, so broken hearted, I KNOW your pain. What I did and still do is this and believe, my son is now very accepting and loving with me :). I sit back in a meditative state, and I visualize a beautiful glowing candle in his heart and throat. I literally send him all my love while doing this and really feeling the love inside of me as well. I was doing this daily for about a month, and now it’s at least once weekly. I encourage you to do this. In time, i know he will come around. Also ask the Divine for the best and highest good for your son.XXXOOO to you and to your son.
Carole, thank you. I love your advice. I will start tonight. I’ll do this for all my children, grand-children, and great grand-son. I know my son will comeback to me. It’s just a question of time. I can wait. Sending you love 🙂
((((((Danielle))))) You are very welcome….. He will come back and was with my son, time was the factor. As you visualize and feel the love you give to your children, it’s beautiful and you will begin to feel the love inside your heart and soul as well Please keep in touch, Danielle, I send you my love 🙂
Carole, how wonderful for you to be able to begin to hear your heart sing.(((((heart))))))
Taz, as i have received replies to my outpouring through this process, my eyes fill up with tears. I LOVE the community within all of us. Thank you for your support Taz, for you are a wonderful person! ((((your heart and mine))))
My ego is flaring this morning. My coworker had her her baby this morning, and another coworker will be leaving in 2 weeks. Part of me is excited and my ego part is going into the better than mode. I got to do all this extra work, my coworkers won’t pitch in, my supervisor won’t support us yada yada yada. Well I laughed after reading the morning passage and watched the video. It’s trying to protect me I think from feeling stressed about extra work. Hello my ego friend. Thank you for trying to help. I love you and it’s going to be ok.
Yes, gratitude to have a job will get you through it all and being wise in knowing, no matter what, you will be okay. Hugs to you Emily.
Last night I realized what Panache said about the book that was going to “work through you during the night”. Or something like that. last week, I decided to Schedule a night out with co-workers, on next monday (our friday). Yesterday, as I mentionned I was excited about next week, one of them told me it was over with hr boyfriend, and tht she was bringing a girlfriend along, tht is also out of a Relationship. Have I mentionned I’m out of one since about 6 months? Anyway, last night I dreamt all night long, and when I say all night long, I was waking up and going back to sleep, o really, all night long I dreamt about having Relationship with those women… I woke up this morning feeling really weird, all shook up, in a state of what seemed like a maelstrom of emotions. I’ve been running away from that first real heartbreak I had with the first girlfriend I really loved. Not wanting to feel, going from a Relationship to another. I’m pretty sure there’s something else Under that. I just wanted to write that in, now tht I’m aware of it. About the ego… yeah… what a drama he is… he just loves it. Didn’t realized yet? Then re-read from the start 😉 . Anyway, I really love the idea of making it a friend, and being aware of when he arises to let me know where I need to look at next. Man, I am so tired of feeling depressed all the time, I’m confused of where I should be at right now, or how I should feel… I think I’ll be taking some time away for myself today so I can meditate and be with myself.
Oliver, I too am recovering from a failed relationship. On one site I read this quote, “relationships always work best when you always do what is best for you”. The translation of the meaning was lost on me, do you understand it?
Hahaha thank you completly got it!
‘relationships always work best when you always do what is best for you” we can’t change someone else, but when WE change, the people around us change,,,
Oliver, you may not have seen my post at days end yesterday, but it helps me when i remember this,,,the Present of NOW
when feeling depression you are living in the past, when you are feeling anxious, you are living in the future, when you are feeling PEACE, you are in the present,,,(((much love)))
as hard as things get, remember “the best is yet to come” (((love)))
Olivier, you said something that I struggle with for a long time : “how I should feel”
I too thought that I should feel a certain way and felt guilty when I didn’t.
Now I understand that feeling is not something that we should or shouldn’t do. It’s energy that pass through us and our job is to feel it without judgement or analysing it. Just let it Pass through as they dissipate when we are conscious of it.
Thank you for giving me the chance to clarified it for myself. Have a good meditation 🙂
Love and support! Maybe you find your power in your ego? Feel as you feel, that is ok, accept, accept and depression will lift off!
Dear OLIVIER, I too had a rough night by remembrances of the past. I think this process is supposed to do that. Stir things up so that in this loving forum we can find support to let it all go.
(((YES))) we have a MAGNIFICENT support family here, a safe place to bring up all the stuff to make room for more love,,, (((LOVE YOU ALL)))
I have been deep in the “feeling” of the emotions evoked with each day’s chapter. The words are written in such a way that I am in the knowing of the experience as it is described…. In BEing with each emotion I came to a place of knowing that we have the ability in this human condition to connect through these experiences for greater understanding but now from a heart place of compassion, embracing and releasing. What a beautifully peaceful creation of space for more…. more bliss, more joy, more love. <3 Thank you Panache…. for taking our hand through this epic breakthrough .
One thing that confuses me…Can the ego also be supportive? Many times I hear a little voice praising me or urging me on. Is that also the ego?
If it feels good and peaceful it’s my soul, if it doesn’t feel good and peaceful it’s my ego. That’s is how I came to see the difference. Hope it help 🙂
It makes perfect sense. Thank you Panache, your heart is open and it radiates the Truth . You are an amazing conduit. Blessings beloved.
Holy Macaroni, PANACHE, that is a very interesting point of view, I LOVE THAT and I will see what comes up when I focus more intently on my EGO, with this new observation. Thank You so much for that thought,,,I have been treating my ego as if it is steering me in the wrong direction and being SO Incredibly frustrated with it’s interference,,,keeping me from connecting with my higher self and walking my TRUE path, keeping me from doing what I came here to do in this life time and fighting against that little monkey who I thought was so misguided, from all the issues of my childhood,,,AND, that has NOT been working well AT ALL,,,this is going to be so interesting, changing the way I look at that!!! Somehow I knew my resistance was off, in some way so, now I am thinking this aught to help get my dreams within reach,,,ALREADY, this feels more true to me. And I thought this was going to be similar to yesterday’s ‘addictions’ and did not know how that would work and still be so different, HOWEVER, now I feel excited to experience a new way of awareness, opening up to my ego in a Whole New Light, thank you, Darling, you are Brilliant INDEED, my Dear Friend
Teresa, I can feel your excitement about this. I’m so happy for you. I’m cheering you: Way to go Teresa! 🙂
Agree, it is brilliant! Love and light!
I’m new at this but I feel the ego is like a dear aunt who wants to protect us no matter what …. she shows up to tell us a story about us to keep us from getting harmed or to keep on going…. We listen to her and embrace her and let go….there’s a reason for the ego to exist….it is like a defense mechanism that we had to create when we didn’t know what was going …how to face challenges…to create identity…etc..so here comes the ego ..We also need to realize that it could also tell us the wrong story about us because of the perception when it was created………so let’s look at it with love and realize that we are not our ego but we need to embrace it
Everything seems to come back to Love, huh?!
All things are possible with love!
The video about the ego was such welcom eye-opener for me! When I looked (and continue to look) at how I relate to my ego, I see that I have judged it as “less than” my “spiritual side,” that the ego is something to “transcend” because it’s not “spiritual.” Thank you, Panache, for providing this new perspective!
The video about the ego was such a welcome eye-opener for me! When I looked (and continue to look) at how I relate to my ego, I see that I have judged it as “less than” my “spiritual side,” that the ego is something to “transcend” because it’s not “spiritual.” Thank you, Panache, for providing this new perspective!
Sorry for the duplicate post. I thought the corrected one would replace the first one. Oh, well.
Carol, thanks for the laugh. I saw the ego trying to be the perfectionist in me in your third time and apologising for it. That is a perfect example of the ego in action, I thought. I just had to respond to it. Thank you for being here. 🙂
You got it, Danielle! My “inner perfectionist” definitely appeared in that comment! Thank you! You’re an AWESOME “perfectionist buster”!
I believe when other teachers share their ego thoughts they intend to say exactly what you just did. The ego transcends, it isn’ t derivative of our spiritual essence.
Much as a lotion is a carrier for an essential oil.
These videos never work for me. Ugh
Karen, I’m holding you in my love. Hold on it will come.
Never work HOW, Karen — technically or they don’t help you in this course somehow? If it’s technical, you can contact “Help & Support” at the top right-hand corner of the website home page.”
You can mail teamdesai and ask for help! They are very good!
or ask someone in your life!
Every time I read an exert from this book, I feel totally wrapped in the arms of love. Tears flow, joy expands from every cell of my body. When an old belief rises and the pain comes, I love it, I express it and then it frees me from the bondage. I have been feeling like I was “working” this path alone. Now I feel like I am experience this path as “THE ONE”, with all of you! Sweet Beautiful Soul Panache, I am so grateful for this time with you and the beautiful book that you have written. Much Love and Harmony: Shira
Thank you for sharing that so authentically and beautifully, Shira! I’ve been “all over the map” emotionally in this program: crying, shaking with fear, struggling to breathe deeply, screaming, pounding on something (not someone) — AND laughing, dancing, singing, having warm, connected conversations with friends, exchanging smiles with strangers. And EVERY single moment of this experience is OKAY, is PERFECT, is my soul expression. Panache, and all of YOU, thank you so much for sharing this journey with me! Namaste.
That’s Beautiful, (((SHIRA)))
Our right side ups, our upside downs, our summer salts, round and round we go together,,,what we can feel, we can heal, as ONE,,,becoming AVATARS of LOVE
A common joke for me is that I had to take my ego and pride to the pawn shop because I couldn’t afford them; they just cost me too many things in my life. And for that reason I have lived very self-less. However, through reading and actually listening to Panache at Agape this past Sunday, I see that some ego is good and is healthy for self worth and self esteem. And in knowing why I am doing or saying something – am I speaking my truth or name-dropping makes all the difference. Thank you Panache.
Thank you Danielle. That helps a lot!
Donna, you are so welcome. It make me feel so good to know that I helped you. Panache must feel out of this world to see all those people that he is helping. More we feel more we become as he is, a channel of love. Can you imagine how the world will be when we all get to that point? Make me smile just thinking about it. Love to you 🙂
(((that thought makes me smile too DANIELLE)))
Wooooo…. Panache the exercise in the book was so energetically charged for me. I’m still trembling. My Ego saved my life. I see that so clearly now. When I was at my lowest phase, my Ego picked me up by my bootstraps and gave my life meaning. Thank you Dear Friend! I felt it shift to transparent and sobbed the tears of Gratitude!!! I Love You Panache! And Jan too!!! Thank you! <3
I see that trying to stop the FLOW of life is like trying to stop the ocean or some other powerful energy. There is no controlling it! More and more I’m finding ways I still try to control it. And letting go again, and again . . . and again. I SO wish I had a dollar for every time I have “resigned as Manager of the Universe”! Doing it again now.
Breathe, going with the FLOW,,,,,sendin lots of love
This message brought tears to my eyes this morning. I have been on a quest for quite some time to really understand the role of the ego. For a long time, I’d bought into the teaching that the ego was “bad” and that it needed to be subdued; better yet, “snuffed out.” At some level, I knew that was not TRUE; rather dis-honoring it, dishonored me. Today, not only will I partner with it, I will embrace it and thank it for existing. My tears are tears of “homecoming!” Thank you, Panache.
I am with you, (((SHEILA)))
Aloha All, Yes thank you everyone for sharing. We do not know when something we share will be the spark, the inspiration, the comfort, and love that someone embraces, feels and is just the right thing at the right time. So please if you feel the impulse to share do.
as far as i’m aware of we are born with an ego, we are not born with a soul. from polarity and duality on this earth plane depending on our vibration the ego can be driven to a fear-based negativity, the ego departs when our grossest body departs. why fight a losing battle, our ego is not evil so why not make the ego an ally as panache said in your life. until, i can reach to the soul to take the ranges and direct me holistically why battle your playing ground. when we come through the veil we forget everything down here, just a game an illusion but it seems so real doesn’t it !
I have met the ego and the ego is us. It is a focal point demonstrating separation within. Fed fear and drowning in a sea of misinformation, scrambling for survival, it shows up as imbalance. Polarity is a natural consequence of the ego trying everything to get us back to harmony. With sufficient love and embrace, the ego’s noise and swinging madness…ie. “less than…better than…less than” settles like a pendulum in stillness, neutrality and acceptance. Oh, this ego I am is no longer of separation, no longer needing to rule or be ruled. In love, it is an instrument of brilliant individuation. Oh, and here is the seed of the unique I came to fall in love with. And Oh, I can see this seed of awesome blossom in everyone now. And Oh, I love my ego. It is love.
I love coming to the page each day and reading all your loving and helpful comments. We are all such awesome, beautiful souls. I love your explanation of the ego, Panache. I’ve always thought, till I found you, that the ego WAS the evil, ugly part of me, like some huge monster that had to be beaten and driven into submission. It was the enemy!! What a relief that it’s actually my friend – I’m happily embracing that. Peace to my ego.
Me too, Kaye — at least my own personal version of that. 🙂
Yes, Carol, the ego makes a much better friend than it did an enemy. 🙂
Kaye, I love the simplicity of this sentence. So true and it feels so much better. I even could embrace Darth Vader, as what my ego showed up this morning, and it made me laugh. What a relief.
If we had no ego, wouldn’t we be rudderless? We need it to steer our ship.